Mature prayer topics (older or mature members only, please)

Postby **Tsukuyomi** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 11:50 am

Hang in there ^__^ I'll be praying as well~

As Atria pointed out, The Mature Prayer Thread may be more appropriate for such topics ^^

Actually,I'll merge them now ^__^

Postby **AnimeGirl** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 3:44 pm

I have returned for prayer again for the same friend I had mentioned earlier (and to everyone else in this thread, I'll be praying for you!).

I haven't really heard much news as her current "relationship status", and I am still worried about her in that area, but now I am concerned for something else. I'm scared she might be practicing self-harm. Why? When my brother and I were walking home from church, my brother told me he saw little cuts near the wrist area on her. She had handed me one of her drawings and that's when he noticed. I'm surprised I didn't. He said that the cuts looked too clean and perfect to be an accident. It was only for a quick moment, so he didn't get a really good look at it, and the last time I spent time with her she had on both her arms these arm-warmers. It's never bothered me before, since she always wore them, and I had seen her without them. But now, I wonder if she was hiding something. Now I can't say for sure if she is doing this, but sadly, it wouldn't shock me if she was.

So if you can, please pray again. I'm getting more and more worried for her, to the point it's scaring me.

Postby **Atria35** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 4:12 pm

Ouch ><" Definitely praying.

You should also talk to her parents- if she is possibly self-harming, they should know so they can have her checked out, both for the signs of it and so that they can get her the help she needs if she is.

Postby **Okami** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 4:49 pm

AnimeGirl (post: 1459032) wrote:I have returned for prayer again for the same friend I had mentioned earlier (and to everyone else in this thread, I'll be praying for you!).

I haven't really heard much news as her current "relationship status", and I am still worried about her in that area, but now I am concerned for something else. I'm scared she might be practicing self-harm. Why? When my brother and I were walking home from church, my brother told me he saw little cuts near the wrist area on her. She had handed me one of her drawings and that's when he noticed. I'm surprised I didn't. He said that the cuts looked too clean and perfect to be an accident. It was only for a quick moment, so he didn't get a really good look at it, and the last time I spent time with her she had on both her arms these arm-warmers. It's never bothered me before, since she always wore them, and I had seen her without them. But now, I wonder if she was hiding something. Now I can't say for sure if she is doing this, but sadly, it wouldn't shock me if she was.

So if you can, please pray again. I'm getting more and more worried for her, to the point it's scaring me.

It definately sounds like it could be a possibilty that she is self-injuring. Back when I was caught in self-harm, I used to wear arm-warmers when my wounds were fresh so others wouldn't have the possibility of seeing.

At any rate, what Atria said to do is pretty solid advice. Talk to her parents about your concern. She'll undoubtly not like that she's been "found out" if it's true, but it'll also tell her that someone cares.

Being entangled like that is a mix and web of emotions, so just do your best to stick with her, be her friend, and be open and honest. Talk to her about your concerns. It will show her that you're willing to stick around when she might feel like that if anyone knew of her self-harm, they would leave.

That's just drawing off from personal experience, but I figure it's worth telling since these are things a lot of people I've talked to concerning self-harm have reported being in comparison with their own lives. I'll be praying!

Postby **Sanderson** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:22 pm

So I was spending time with my girlfriend for Valentines Day. We were making out, I thought I was about to lose my virginity to her. She stopped me, then said we shouldn't do this because we aren't married yet, she then broke up with me for no reason. When I made it home, I was in tears and cried into my pillow. My mom noticed me crying and asked if I was ok. I told her what happened. She felt really bad. She ended up giving me a talk about sex and started showing me how to be good at doing... things. As she let me practice on her, it eventually got to the point where we went ALL the way. So I have two concerns.

1) I lost my virginity before marriage THAT bad?
2) I remember you guys said her finishing me off when she caught me looking at hentai was bad, so I imagine this is worst? Yes?

Postby **Okami** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:35 pm

Sanderson (post: 1459113) wrote:So I was spending time with my girlfriend for Valentines Day. We were making out, I thought I was about to lose my virginity to her. She stopped me, then said we shouldn't do this because we aren't married yet, she then broke up with me for no reason. When I made it home, I was in tears and cried into my pillow. My mom noticed me crying and asked if I was ok. I told her what happened. She felt really bad. She ended up giving me a talk about sex and started showing me how to be good at doing... things. As she let me practice on her, it eventually got to the point where we went ALL the way. So I have two concerns.

1) I lost my virginity before marriage THAT bad?
2) I remember you guys said her finishing me off when she caught me looking at hentai was bad, so I imagine this is worst? Yes?

I don't really think it's our place to judge which is worse. I would say then that yes, that's really crossing a line. My first instinct goes back to the situation in Corinth during the writing of 1 Corinthians (Ch. 5) and as much as part of me doesn't want to be harsh as Paul is in that situation, that's just the way I see it. You can be cleansed and made new. It's your decision just as it was in what happened earlier. Which then makes me think of Fireflight's You Decide...

Postby **goldenspines** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:52 pm

Okami is correct, this is not the thread to discuss whether something is "right" or not. It's for prayer and support. Any kind of discussion can be taken to PM.

That being said, I don't post much in this thread, but you all are in my prayers.

Postby **Kunoichi** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 7:18 am

I could use some prayer. Masturbation is a addiction I've struggled for with many years. I don't know if that's because of rape and its a way for me to feel "in control" when those memories/flashbacks/fear comes up again. It may not make much sense to some, and I'm not making excuses. But could use the prayer on it. I'm embarassed to admit all this..so yeah. Thanks all.

Postby **bkilbour** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 7:41 am

I will, K-oi.
I've got the same prolem (stemming from different problems), but the root of it is always our own flesh, and its lusts.
May you and I both learn to be more dedicated to God, to give ourselves to His will, and be patient.
May He also give us loving and Godly spouses, for it looks to me like we weren't meant to be like Paul.

Postby **Okami** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 8:32 am

Kunoichi (post: 1459554) wrote:I could use some prayer. Masturbation is a addiction I've struggled for with many years. I don't know if that's because of rape and its a way for me to feel "in control" when those memories/flashbacks/fear comes up again. It may not make much sense to some, and I'm not making excuses. But could use the prayer on it. I'm embarassed to admit all this..so yeah. Thanks all.

bkilbour (post: 1459558) wrote:I will, K-oi.
I've got the same prolem (stemming from different problems), but the root of it is always our own flesh, and its lusts.
May you and I both learn to be more dedicated to God, to give ourselves to His will, and be patient.
May He also give us loving and Godly spouses, for it looks to me like we weren't meant to be like Paul.

Am praying for you both. It's not easy to regain control in this area, it takes time, patience, dedication, and the willingness to give up control to God, all the time, 100% completely. It's hard. Without a doubt in my mind, it's hard. It's a challenge. There are still times when I will be in tears, fighting, weakened, craving. It's nothing like it was in the very beginning (Where I'd be so withdrawn that I couldn't move or speak, just crying and shaking) but it's still a very real battle. Part of me freaks out because "It's almost been six months, you shouldn't be having these kinds of withdrawal symptoms at this point." But six months in comparison to fifteen years...yeah, it's going to take longer than a few months to break free mentally. You certainly aren't alone. Keep fighting, we're all here cheering you on. Philippians 4:13 - You can do all things through Christ who gives you strength! :jump:

http://myanimelist.net/profile/ShaylaBot · Postby **Makachop^^128** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 1:42 am

Hi guys
I don't know if this is a ok place to post this, but its kinda idk inappropriate so yea :/
In the past I was sexually abused a couple of times and had a history of that sort of stuff >.> I might have been used for child pornography too. Anyway I've been feeling nervous lately because of my past I think. I have a few friends, (and a few bullies) that like to touch me wrongly, my friends that do it just come up and touch me anyway they want, the bullies do the same but with threats. Anyway I'd like prayer that it will stop, it hurts me, it brings up the past and hurts my confidence, Most of the friends that do it are bi sexual friends and it makes me feel like some how theres somethign wrong with me when women touch me like this. Some of the bullies or what ever you want to call them are like 20 or more year old men that live around town. I've just been really scared lately. Please pray for my protection.

I Also wanted prayer for my boyfriend, he's kinda going through the same thing as I am. With a bad past, and now guys are um not treating him right...It really hurts to see him being treated like this. I don't know want to do really, but if I ever see it I'm definaitly reporting it....I'd just like prayer for is safety and peace. Also I think its a bit hard on his confidence, sense its guys that are doing it....
Thank you guys

I could use some prayer. Masturbation is a addiction I've struggled for with many years. I don't know if that's because of rape and its a way for me to feel "in control" when those memories/flashbacks/fear comes up again. It may not make much sense to some, and I'm not making excuses. But could use the prayer on it. I'm embarassed to admit all this..so yeah. Thanks all.
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Postby **Atria35** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 4:52 am

Maka, I can only say that, if you don't want to be touched like that by your friends, then TELL THEM. And if they don't stop, then stop seeing them. Whe you put up boundaries with friends, they usually respect it- or they aren't really your friends. Prayer alone doesn't stop stuff like that.

And if 20-year-old men are going around touching you inappropriately, it's time to call the police. That's sexual molestation on a minor- highly illegal.

You should not just contact people if you see them harassing your boyfriend- you also need to protect yourself.

Postby **TopazRaven** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 6:45 am

Atria is right Maka, you need to tell your parents and the police about it. What these people are doing to you, friends or not, is completley inappropriate and they should be ashamed of themselves. It's people like them I want to smack the crap out of. Ahem, sorry. Got a violent streak still I guess. Anyway, I'll be praying for you.

http://myanimelist.net/profile/ShaylaBot · Postby **Makachop^^128** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 9:28 am

I've told them to stop I've actually kicked one of them...., the thing is they do it to others, they do it to eachother like its just what friends do to each other....so idk what to do v.v I can't stop seeing them cause they are all in my classes....
I've told my parents. Next time it happens I'm calling the police I have once already, but I just want prayer that it doesn't go that far again.

Postby **TopazRaven** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 10:16 am

I'll definitly be praying for you Maka. I hope things get better.

Postby **K. Ayato** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 10:49 am

Maka, you can't tell them to stop doing it to others. That's out of your control. But you CAN take action and tell them to stop doing it to YOU.

http://myanimelist.net/profile/ShaylaBot · Postby **Makachop^^128** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 11:00 am

K. Ayato (post: 1459754) wrote:Maka, you can't tell them to stop doing it to others. That's out of your control. But you CAN take action and tell them to stop doing it to YOU.

Yea I have been...every time I tell them stop, I've smacked a few girls lol yet the next day they go ahead and do it....

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 11:12 am

Seriously. Call the police. What they are doing is breaking the law. And you told them to stop yet they continue. You have every right to protect yourself. So take it to the authorities.

Postby **shooraijin** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 8:10 pm

Indeed. Technically, it's assault and battery.

http://myanimelist.net/profile/ShaylaBot · Postby **Makachop^^128** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 10:34 pm

Yea I think I should...idk why I'm just scared I'll gt beat up or something :/ but I should v.v

Postby **Hansha** » Sat Feb 19, 2011 5:53 am

I don't know if this is the right place to put this and if it's not sorry in advance but I'm not sure how to deal with something at work. Theres this guy that I've been friends with for a bit but lately he's been majorly creeping me out. Like he asked me today how would I rate myself, I told him that was a weird question and refused to answer trying to ignore him. then he told me I was an 8, (btw did I mention he's almost 20 years my senior?) It doesn't sound bad but the situation just gave me a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach. then he was reading my shirt. It had a 10 on it so he asked me if I was 10 girl that day and spent a bit too long staring at my upper regions. I thought about telling him to quit staring at my chest but I wasn't absolutely sure if thats what he was doing completely and didn't want to say anything that would be awkward. Idk, I don't want to make things awkward cause I have to work with him and he is really nice for the most part but how can I set up some boundaries without being mean? please pray for guidance for me.

Postby **Atria35** » Sat Feb 19, 2011 6:32 am

Hansha, I'm definitely praying for you.

You also need to take this to your boss or the HR department. This guy is sexually harassing you, and it's completely inappropriate and out-of-line for him to do that. And guys like that tend to have done it before. Document what's been happening, do NOT consider him any type of friend, and make sure you file a complaint.

Postby **Tsukuyomi** » Sat Feb 19, 2011 12:13 pm

I would tell him straight up that he's making you uncomfortable ^__^ If you don't tell him, he won't know ^__^ When people are being creepers, they don't always know it until it's too late.. lol If that doesn't work, then you should definitely tell a higher up ^^ I'll be praying that all works out ^__^

http://myanimelist.net/profile/ShaylaBot · Postby **Makachop^^128** » Wed Feb 23, 2011 12:46 am

Will be praying >.<

Postby **TWWK** » Wed Feb 23, 2011 5:33 am

Tsukuyomi (post: 1459930) wrote:I would tell him straight up that he's making you uncomfortable ^__^ If you don't tell him, he won't know ^__^ When people are being creepers, they don't always know it until it's too late.. lol If that doesn't work, then you should definitely tell a higher up ^^ I'll be praying that all works out ^__^

I definitely second this. I was recently in a discussion with co-workers at a training, and almost unanimously, they said they would appreciate it if others told them they were stepping over bounds, and many said they were angry when people went over their head without telling them first. Like Tsukuyomi says, he may not know what he's doing.

Anyway, that's easier said than done, but I think it's good advice.

*prays for you*

Postby **Okami** » Wed Feb 23, 2011 6:41 am

I don't know how many of you have heard recently, but there's a growing trend in teens and adolescents in uploading videos on self-harm to youtube. My mom informed me of this yesterday via text after hearing about it on Good Morning America and so I've been digging around and doing some research on it myself, and it's pretty alarming. Thankfully it sounds like Google is going to create a link-to-help resource, much like what they've done for suicide.

Be in prayer for this whole situation and trend, because in the very least, it's disturbing. I have such a heart for self-harm, and hearing of all that's going on, the media isn't giving it much hope right now and it breaks me, sickens me, to see and hear...

Postby **bkilbour** » Wed Feb 23, 2011 11:20 am

The thing about kids cutting on youtube....
Biting myself used to be something I did in secret (for some really insne reasons). I didn't want anyone to know. I pray that this new generation will be helped - especially since it's so out in the open now.

http://myanimelist.net/profile/ShaylaBot · Postby **Makachop^^128** » Wed Feb 23, 2011 12:21 pm

Okami (post: 1460998) wrote:I don't know how many of you have heard recently, but there's a growing trend in teens and adolescents in uploading videos on self-harm to youtube. My mom informed me of this yesterday via text after hearing about it on Good Morning America and so I've been digging around and doing some research on it myself, and it's pretty alarming. Thankfully it sounds like Google is going to create a link-to-help resource, much like what they've done for suicide.

Be in prayer for this whole situation and trend, because in the very least, it's disturbing. I have such a heart for self-harm, and hearing of all that's going on, the media isn't giving it much hope right now and it breaks me, sickens me, to see and hear...

yea um I used to cut myself.....I don't anymore but I have a close friend that does...I understand why they do it though, I'm praying

Postby **Atria35** » Wed Feb 23, 2011 1:18 pm

Well, it is a type of sex, even though it wasn't physical, IMO. The definitions of it grow and change with time.

But I think that it would be impossible to track down this random dude on the internet and marry him, if that's what you felt compelled to do.

I think that talking to your pastor and a marriage counselor (which you should be doing anyway- you can find Christian ones out there) would be beneficial to sorting out your feelings about this, since Biblically, there really is nothing to go on.

Postby **Hiryu** » Wed Feb 23, 2011 1:22 pm

I would think that "cyber sex" is different from the real thing, because it's like you and the other person(s) are acting out a fantasy. That's something that I would consider would be about the same as thinking about it yourself.

Don't worry about it. If it's really bugging you that much, maybe you should ask for forgiveness.

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