For Women Only - What You Need To Know About The Inner Lives Of Men

[Saint Kevin]

I read this book, by author Shaunti Feldhahn, after hearing her talk on a few Focus on the Family radio broadcasts (she is a Christian).

I confess that I read this book largely as a result of the tension I've felt in my own parents' marriage. I've tried explaining to my mother why exactly my father reacts the way he does in certain situations, but I haven't had much success. I read this book for a couple of reasons, some personal, but mostly out of sheer curiosity. I found myself agreeing with Shaunti's findings during the radio broadcasts I heard, and I wanted to see what else she had "discovered." I have to say, she was right on target.

I've seen many Christian books written with the purpose in mind of changing men (getting them to be better communicators with their wives, etc.). Surely there are plenty of ways that men could (and should) endeavor to better understand women for the purpose of having healthy and God honoring relationships, but I think women ought to do their part as well. This book, as well as "Love and Respect," by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, will do a lot in the Christian community to help the next generation to have better marriages.

Here's a link to an excerpt from the book, to encourage you to read it: Clcik Here

P.S. I wholeheartedly recommend "Love and Respect," for men and women alike. I may review that book as well, as soon as I finish the last hundred pages or so. Even without finishing it, I can tell you that it is a worthwhile read.

Get out there, read these books, and be mystified no longer.

[uc pseudonym]

Ah, she conducted a lot of interviews. I saw this book, saw that it was written by a woman, and wondered for a moment. So this is vaguely reassuring.

[dragonshimmer]

*laughs* Cap'n Nick referred me to this thread. A day before you made it, lol. Yes, I will most definitely make this the next book I buy. I shall be confuseded by the mens no more!

[FarmGirl]

This is interesting.
Some of this I knew from observing and talking with my father, but there are definately things in here that should be futher looked into.
I'll see if any of my libraries have it.

[Conner999]

For women only? PFFT!! I wanna read that too.

[mitsuki lover]

Sorry but I find the entire thing a bit overly amusing.

[Fionn Fael]

I don't claim to understand men, and I'm afraid that I never will. They make no sense whatsoever. I'm a little young to be picking up this book, though, aren't I?

[shooraijin]

It's okay, FF, we don't understand your gender either.

[Puritan]

I have trouble understanding my own gender half the time, let alone the female gender. Personally, I've read this type of thing before and it never seems to describe me. Perhaps this book is different, but alot of the "understanding gender-X" books seem to focus on some mythical gender ideal that only applies to some portion of the population. No substitiute for personal experience, I guess.

[uc pseudonym]

That has definitely been my experience as well, particularly with certain Christian authors I won't mention for the moment. I vaguely worry that some people will try to apply a given explanation of men to me, as most I have seen would create a very poor explanation for my actions. As for the other side of these books, I haven't been impressed either. They typically just seem to say obvious things.

[mitsuki lover]

People aren't the same so not everything someone will write about one sex or the other is going to always hold true of everyone of that sex.

[Fionn Fael]

It's okay, FF, we don't understand your gender either.

That's okay. I don't understand us any more than you guys.

[Gypsy]

I did a quick scan of the book for work, and I was impressed overall. Much of it seemed to have to do with the inner workings of married life, so I didn't relate to some of the subject matter. I have heard good feedback about it from customers, so it's one that I'll readily suggest to ladies looking for that sort of book.

[mitsuki lover]

Some hints form the guys' perspective:
1.Don't nag,we heard you the first time,we just want to get to the end of the game first before we do whatever.
2.Don't keep telling us WE need to loose the weight when YOU have the same problem.
3.Don't force us to wait an hour when you're looking for a new dress.
4.Don't in fact force us to go shopping with you.
5.Don't change the channels on the car radio all the time...it's annoying.
6.Don't complain about the toilet seat being up all the time when your'e the one who lives in the bathroom all the time.
7.Don't expect anything overly romantic on the first date.