Bobtheduck (post: 1226075) wrote:I was under the impression (based on Pimsleur) that Soo, desu ka? was a question where as Soo, desu ne? was a soft agreement... In Soo, desu ka? you're actually questioning the situation... So they mean very different things.
As for Anata, well... that's the neutral "you" but second person is almost never used... Instead, a person's name is used...
What I know about gender speech is this:
Atashi is female
Watashi is neutral
Ore is an adult male
Boku is a child male
Washi is an old man
All of those mean "me" or "I" (none of them mean "strawberry eggs", but that's beside the point)
If something has an optional honorific form, Women are usually supposed to use it (unless it's in reference to themselves), but men have more freedom to go without an honorific.
There was a word I learned from school rumble that I wanted to use that turned out to be a feminine word... I just can't remember it now...
Ne isn't feminine... It should be used by everyone. What MAY be feminine is an overuse of it, but ne is just used to show that you're flexible...
Agreed about 'Ne'. It's a tendency in feminine speech to seek agreement or concord more often that gives the impression that it's feminine.
"Anata" is very often translated as 'Dear', when used between husband and wife, because of the feeling behind using it. It and kimi are both considered 'formal', not neutral (which is why they don't get used a lot and people revert to names instead.) The informal is 'omae', which has become rude in modern speech (it's often used like saying 'look, buddy' to someone you're **** at). I do hear it regularly used toward younger siblings in Anime all the time, though. There simply isn't a true 'neutral' second person. That's probably why calling "Ano" to get a stranger's attention isn't rude.
"Soo desu ka.": This is commonly used in the way I described, as is "Soo desu ne." (I've heard "Soo ka" many times also). I'm not adding question marks. Say it like you're mulling it over, not like you're asking a question. With the question mark, it is used as you describe, but without the question mark, it has a completely different meaning.
IIRC, Pimsleur mentions the "Soo desu ne." usage.
"Ore" implies superior status or authority. It can be rude in the wrong context, even when used by an adult male.
I need to modify a statement I made previously, BTW. I decided to pay better attention lately, and I'm hearing men using 'ng' for 'g' a lot more often than I had realized. I've decided it's a regional thing, not a gender thing at all. I've looked for literature that discusses it, but I've yet to find anything.
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