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Cousin Just out of Jail

PostPosted: Sun Sep 16, 2012 11:28 pm
by HarleyQuinnOy
So I have this cousin (or he is my dads cousin so my second cousin I guess) he is almost 50, and two years ago he stayed at my house for a few months helping us build a room onto our house and he got saved :), After he got saved he started reading the bible and realizing all the wrong things he had done to people and started calling up people he had hurt and apologizing, and then he turned himself in to the police because he had a lot of crimes he had ran away from. We thought he would only be in for a few months but ended up being about a year and a half. Well he just got out a few months ago and we finally got to see him today and took him to church and stuff it was really nice, but he has a hard road ahead of him, he started drinking again and is around people that are living the lifestyle he use to. It would be so easy for him to fall back into everything, so I would just like to ask anyone to send out a prayer for him to have the strength to deny his flesh and be an example to those around him and his children who he and my family desperately want to see get saved! Thank You!!

PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 9:38 am
by MrKrillz0r
Glad that he found Jesus, praying that he'll be able to depend on Jesus to make it through!

PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 10:12 am
by Atria35
Praying.

The thing is, has he ever had an alcohol addiction? If not, then there are many denominations where light-to-moderate drinking is considered acceptable and this might be something that he has no issue with. If he has, then without a support group (such as AA), then it's all too easy to fall back into old habits. If it seems a sign of addiction, then you might want to talk to a pastor - or talk with him yourself - and see if he can't be encouraged to go.

PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:25 am
by SilverToast
Praying!

PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 4:12 pm
by Xeno
Atria35 (post: 1589573) wrote:The thing is, has he ever had an alcohol addiction? If not, then there are many denominations where light-to-moderate drinking is considered acceptable and this might be something that he has no issue with. If he has, then without a support group (such as AA), then it's all too easy to fall back into old habits. If it seems a sign of addiction, then you might want to talk to a pastor - or talk with him yourself - and see if he can't be encouraged to go.


I want to emphasize this point here. Just because someone is drinking alcohol doesn't mean they're on a downward spiral, some people just genuinely like various alcoholic beverages.

As far as him being around his old group of friends, that is something of concern, but it also raises the question of if they were part of what he was doing or if he was doing things on his own. So many variables here. Either way, I do hope everything turns out for the best, and it might be a good idea to encourage him to talk to the pastor of the church where he has been attending about these issues (but don't go behind his back).

PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 5:56 pm
by anlptgtsg
Praying

PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:42 pm
by HarleyQuinnOy
@Atria and @Xeno, don't worry i am aware that many people drink and its not a problem but I mention it here because it is a problem. Also my family and I have talked to him about getting help and so forth but its up to him to take that step. He doesn't attend church very often either, like I said he got saved and then pretty much went straight to jail, he read the bible a lot in jail but he is still just beginning his journey. So I just wanted some prayer for him to stay strong and keep reading his bible and keep growing closer to God :), and like you said Xeno there are many variables but that would take too much explaining just know he needs prayer, so thank you to all who are praying, it means a lot!!!

PostPosted: Tue Sep 18, 2012 4:06 am
by Sammy Boy
Just a thought, is there some kind of ministry near where you live that helps people who have been in jail? It might help him.

PostPosted: Tue Sep 18, 2012 11:10 pm
by HarleyQuinnOy
He lives a few hours away from us so we have not looked into that but that is a great suggestion, he definitely needs to get around a group of supportive people it would really help. Thank you for caring to suggest ideas as well guys it is really nice to know that people care about the well being of those they don't even know :)